Dating is something that has become extremely complicated in the modern day world. People are suffering from heartbreak nowadays more than ever, and before things get too serious, you and your partner need to ask each other these 5 things.
Relationships haven’t ever really been an easy thing to deal with, but they are well worth it. Nothing really beats having a life companion to go throughout your journey with. It’s awesome to have a sidekick, but it is not a necessity. Many people these days have the idea that there is no happiness without a partner. This is entirely wrong. We do not have to be in a relationship to be happy. This belief and urgency to get into a relationship as soon as possible have caused dating to become that much harder. Heartbreak is way too common these days, and to avoid it you need to ask and answer these 5 questions with your partner.
Discuss Physical Intimacy
Physical intimacy is an important part to any relationship. Aside from the fact that we like to be touched and desired, it is important to discuss physical intimacy to avoid having a physical only relationship. Many people these days are dating for the mere physical components. They want someone to hold, have sex with, and kiss in public. It becomes a more social relationship than anything. You need to discuss physical intimacy to make sure this isn’t an issue in your relationship. You need to discuss when the best time to start being physical is. You should have a solid emotional bond before engaging in much physical intimacy. Hardly anyone pays attention to this and it has most likely caused much heartbreak. It’s a better decision for yourself to wait.
Emotional intimacy is just as important as physical. It needs to be discussed with your partner to establish each other’s vulnerability. You can’t refrain from being vulnerable in a relationship if you want it to work. You have to trust the other person won’t hurt you, and if they do you have to be able to move on from it.
You might think mental and emotional intimacy are the same thing, but they aren’t. A relationship can mold and reshape your mentality. The thoughts, feelings, and motivations that are a result from the relationship can completely change the way a person thinks. You need to talk to your partner about the way your relationship is changing your mentality.
“He is one complicated guy intellectually and incredibly interesting to me. I look forward to how he thinks and where he gets those fascinating ideas. He cares what I think, too, and takes me seriously when I see things differently. We almost always end up melding our thoughts into new ways of looking at things.”
It can be extremely difficult to manage a relationship when you both have different ideas of spirit, or the afterlife. Many people have a varying belief on the metaphysical, afterlife, and the spiritual capabilities of a human. You need to make sure that you and your partner at least have a similar belief of these things. It is ridiculously hard to manage a relationship when you don’t, trust me.
Establish Common Ground
These things are extremely important to discuss in your relationship. Relationships have a major effect on a person’s reality, and it can easily go bad. If a relationship destroys your reality it can be hard to recover from. Dating is a risky game and you are eventually bound to get hurt at least once. However, if you find the true one for you it is well worth it. You just need to ask questions and establish a positive communicative relationship. You should always take an interest in learning more about your partner. It can change everything. You are there to live throughout your life together, not just benefit each other in some kind of way.
The Overall Questions:
1. Physical: How and when do you like to be touched by me?
2. Mental: What can we talk about that is interesting and fulfilling to you?
3. Emotional: How can I make you feel safe to talk openly about your feelings?
4. Spiritual: What gives you meaning in life that you would like to share with me?
5. Common Grounds: Is there anything important to you that you need to talk about with one another?