Anger management is probably something that we could all work on. Anger is a confusing and frustrating emotion, and once you’re able to control it you will be set free from it. Nothing good comes out of anger and you should use these effective methods of anger management.
Anger tends to cause more problems than we began with. It especially doesn’t fix anything. I mean yeah, we need to be a little angry to be able to stick up for ourselves, but you can’t let it consume you. Once anger starts to consume you it makes you act irrationally and say things you don’t mean. Even more importantly it makes you do things you know you shouldn’t do. Anger can easily control us but there are ways to keep it from doing so. Let go of the anger and be free!
“The best fighter is never angry.”
― Lao Tzu
Identify an Outlet
When you are put in an anger inducing situation it can feel like walls are closing in on you. It’s like you can’t think of anything else other than what it angering you. In this scenario, you should try to find a possible outlet. Change the subject, direct your attention to something else, or meditate. Find a way to calmly pause the argument for you to pull yourself back together.
Forgive and Move On – But Never Forget
Many people go by the motto of forgiving and forgetting, which is an extremely positive mantra to live by. First of all many people have trouble forgiving others because they think it is for them. Forgiveness is not for the person afflicting you, it is for you. You’ll never be able to let go of the anguish until you are able to forgive them. You also have to move on from it. Move on and stop dwelling on it, but never forget. Never forget what people have done to you because they will always do it again.
Sometimes in an angry situation, it can be hard to listen to what the other party has to say. However, just because it can be difficult doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Listening to what the other person has to say allows for the possibility of a resolution. Resolve your issues with this person by understanding their personal emotions and finding common ground. It’s possible. You just have to listen to learn instead of listening to reply.
I know what you’re thinking; this is the last freaking thing you want to hear when you are literally about to explode. Do you relate to this? When you start to feel like you are going to explode practice some relaxing techniques. Mindfulness is the most effective and holistic relaxation techniques. It helps tremendously and allows you to have a clear mind again. Instead of counting to thirty, meditate for thirty minutes. This could essentially change the outcome of every argument or conflict for the better. It can be used in basically every aspect of our daily lives.
Pull Yourself Together
When someone is really pushing your buttons and it is obvious that they are doing so on purpose it can be extremely hard to keep your composure. However, if you find yourself in this scenario remove yourself from it. Go to the bathroom, the bedroom, or the garage. Go for a walk and breath for twenty minutes. Reconstruct in your brain what is truly important. If you have to continue to argument make an outline of the things you need to express to them. It’s actually really helpful, and things always turn out better when we assess them with a clear head.