There are more children growing up with a single parent today than there ever has been. Being a single parent is tough, and it affects kids in ways you don’t particularly take note on.
Divorce has become ever so common these days. It’s a tragic thing for a family to experience and it can take a hefty toll on children. No shame to the single parents out there though; you’re doing everything you can for your children and there is no changing the things you do not have control over. Some relationships just do not work out the way the people might’ve envisioned in the beginning, and that’s okay. However, that being said, divorce affects your children in many different ways and not all of them are noticeable.
Divorce has become terrifyingly common and it continues to rise. Right now, 41% of first marriages end in divorce, 60% of second marriages, and 73% of third marriages. That is some scary statistics. I hope that I never contribute to those numbers too. If your marriage ends in divorce you need to take some extra precautions in making sure that it isn’t taken too much of a negative effect on your children. In fact, children who grow up in a single parent home love differently.
When children grow up in a single parent home they are likely to develop trust issues. If the child grows up with just a mother, he might struggle with maintaining male relationships and have a harder time trusting men in general. It causes them to struggle with mostly all relationships because they always subconsciously think that the ones who are supposed to love you will eventually leave to. Aside from having a harder time trusting people, they additionally trust people at a higher intensity when they overcome learning to trust someone.
Loyalty is also a number one priority to these kids. Because they have already been so deeply hurt by an unloyal loved one, they simply cannot risk getting hurt again. If you’re involved with someone who came from a single family home it is likely that they wouldn’t give any second chances if you ever proved yourself to be unloyal. They also take promises very seriously. Children who came from single family homes will never break a promise. It will also hurt them incredibly if you ever break one that you make with them.
Above all things, a child who comes from a single family home fears rejection the most. They experienced something no child ever should, and that’s rejection at a young age from one of the two people who was supposed to love you the most; the single person in the world who was supposed to unconditionally love them abandoned them – and left a lot of scars. Whether they show them or not.
Of course, there are divorced parents who are able to cooperate correctly and are equally emotionally supportive, however, it is rare. Overall if you came from a divorced family know one thing; the rejection you were faced with has nothing to do with who you are.