We all want to be loved, some of us spend our whole lives looking for the right person. A lot of us would literally give anything to be truly loved.
This is likely the reason why when we are in relationships most of us will put up with a lot of bullshit before we finally break things off. Of course, sacrifices have to be made in all relationships but when we force ourselves to stay when we shouldn’t is when things get bad. Sometimes the ‘love’ is not worth the pain you are dealing with.
Toxic relationships are much more common than you might think. You do not need a relationship in order to be happy. Yes, love is important but a toxic relationship is not real love. You do not need to be the person justifying a toxic relationship and making yourself miserable day in and day out.
Do you think you may be lying to yourself in your relationship? Making things seem much better than they are? Check and see if you are doing the following things, they are without a doubt red flags for this sort of thing.
1. You don’t listen to the opinions of others.
When someone tells you something you just tune it out. You will not even bother addressing the issues anymore.
2. You spend a lot of time defending you, partner.
You are constantly having to justify his actions to your friends and family. You are forever making excuses for him and trying to justify the bad aspects of your relationship.
3. You overthink everything.
You are always trying to figure out how to improve things.
4. You are conflicted when it comes to the idea of leaving.
You ill want to stay but you will also want to leave. You are far too stubborn for your own good.
5. You are happier when he isn’t around.
Things have gotten so bad that you can relax better when he isn’t around.
6. You are always feeling stressed when it comes to your relationship.
A relationship should never be a cause of stress. Sure, relationships are not easy but they shouldn’t make you want to pull all your hair out either.
7. You have become too emotional.
You are very emotional when it comes to the relationship. You are highly conflicted and uncertain about everything.
8. You are changing yourself.
You are walking on eggshells and making changes to yourself as a means to save the relationship.
9. You are putting in more effort than he is.
He is doing nothing to save this relationship and you are making all the changes.
10. You cry yourself to sleep.
You spend far too much time worrying about what is going to happen or where to go from here.
When things get to this point there is no sense in remaining in the relationship. Neither of you have anything left to gain from one another and are only making things worse. You need to do what is best for you and move on. Yes, moving on is hard but it is worth it. You will find happiness in yourself if you look hard enough.