If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissist you know how draining it can be. They will do any and everything they feel is necessary in order to get under your skin and make you feel like you’re in the wrong.
There is no winning with a narcissist. When you are with a narcissist all of your biggest fears regarding relationships are being played out just below your awareness radar. It is important to pay attention to any red flags you may see and get out of this dangerous relationship while you can. If you have gotten out of the relationship your battle is only half of the way over.
A narcissist will say and do whatever it takes to get you back. They need to control you to feel better on the inside. If you take that away from them they will put up a good fight. Narcissists are manipulating and toxic, no matter what they say we should never believe them and we should not allow them back into our lives. Below is a list of things a narcissist will say to try and get you back, DO NOT BELIEVE THEM!
1. “I’ve been thinking bout what you said. I know it’s important to you. I want to make this work. I will do whatever it takes.”
They are only using this as a means of buying time. The tricks and mind games to come are not worth it. They will only do what it takes to make you out to be the bad person. Allowing them to buy themselves more time is not going to do any good for you or your relationship.
2. If they have been talking to someone else they will try to win you back by saying something like:
“He/she won’t leave me alone, I didn’t think you really cared that’s why I was talking to her/him.”
This is an attempt of trying to turn things around on you, they want you to think you are in the wrong. They knew you were invested in them, they did not care. They will continue to keep this person on the side for as long as they possibly can whether you like it or not.
3. “Can we be friends?”
They will only use this as a means to keep tabs on you. They will do everything they can to keep you jealous and they will try to keep you on the backburner. After being friends for any amount of time they will try to get in your pants again. They will try to use you as a fuck buddy and you do not deserve that.
4. “I knew you weren’t the right person for me.”
DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM! This is a trick, they are trying to convince you to want them again. They want you to decide you want to resurrect the relationship and this will make them feel like they are superior to you. Do not let them manipulate you.
5. “I’m sorry I hurt you, I will make it up to you.”
Because you are forgiving they know this is something that will make whatever they did go away. They will do what it takes to make you melt for them. However, the way they are seeing this on the inside is just a means of getting things back to the normal that they choose for you.
6. “I only love you.”
Narcissists are often unfaithful and will try to make their infidelity out to be an addiction. They will say things like “I always come home to you.” This is something they do to make you ‘feel’ better about what they are doing but in all reality, they are just whores that want to control you.
Do not let a narcissist pick up where they left off with you. They will never let you maintain your self-esteem and they will never love you like you want them to. The long term effects of being with a narcissist can and will hurt you. You cannot allow a narcissist to stay in your life, they will not change and you cannot fix them. Do what is best for yourself and cut them out completely.
If you are not sure whether you are dealing with a narcissist or not take the time to go over the video below. Stay strong, there is no sense in staying in a toxic relationship. You are better than that.