Sometimes we forget how to be there for those who need us the most. This is no one’s fault but it is something we need to work on.
When My grandmother was dying I knew nothing of how her transition into the next life was going to be. I didn’t know what to say or how to act around her. It felt strange to think that this day or the next could have been her last. The process of walking beside someone during their journey without judging them is referred to as ‘holding space.’
In doing this we are doing whatever we can to make the person feel as normal as possible. When we are holding space for others we are opening our hearts and offering our support, we are letting go of all control and removing even the very thought of judgment. We should always support one another in life. We should not shame one another when it comes to holding space we should allow the person to trust themselves and see how things play out.
Holding space is something we have all done at some point or another in our lives. We cannot become holding space masters in the blink of an eye, it does not work that way. We have to be able to do things like giving guidance with humility, make people feel safe, keep our ego out of things, and only give people the amount of help or information that they are able to handle. Practice makes perfect in cases like this, each and every situation is different and some cases holding space can be much harder than we would usually assume.
Holding space is all about respecting one another’s differences and recognizing that those differences might lead to choices that we do not like or would not make. For more information on holding space and what it means please take the time to watch the video below.