Love is a strange thing, isn’t it? It is sort of like a mask that keeps you blind, stupid and unaware.
I am not talking about the normal annoying things that boyfriends do like losing his keys for the 10th time or farting while you are lying in bed together. I am talking about all those things that you let slide that you know your boyfriend should not be doing.
- Making you feel bad about yourself
So you like to randomly speak in accents and you really like coloring in your down time. He needs to be okay will all of your little quirks.
- Making you feel like it is inconvenient to spend time together
If he is constantly too busy to see you, you are too fabulous to spend all of your days alone!
- He makes you feel guilty about being happy
You can’t tell him about the great time you had with the girls last night or how great you are doing at your job. You feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells around him because he gets jealous over every little thing. Even though you are not bragging at all, he makes you feel like you are. He makes you feel horrible about being happy when he had a bad day.
- He never supports you, even with the little things
He doesn’t like your posts on social media or tell you how beautiful your hair looks when you get back from the salon. He doesn’t give you nearly enough attention.
- He acts like you owe him sex
Did he buy you dinner? Do the dishes? Throw a load of laundry in the dryer? Pick you up from work? He will use that information against you. He will make you feel like a bad girlfriend for withholding sex from him when he is done so much for you.
- Sex is the only type of affection he is willing to give
He never holds your hand in public or while sitting on the couch. He never pecks your lips or forehead. He never holds you close to cuddle, unless you initiate the encounter.
- Trying to keep you away from the things you love
Whether it is time with your sorority sisters, going to see that band that you love or even keep you from seeing your family. You should never be served an ultimatum that forces you to choose between your passions and him.
- Shutting you up when you try to explain why you are upset
You should never feel like you can’t talk to him about something he has done to hurt you.
- He bashes all of the people that you care about
Your parents, your best friend, your siblings etc. He belittles them to trick you into believing he is better than them. That he is the only one that you need.
- He has a lot of secrets
And most of these secrets have names of different girls. He may be chatting with them on social networks or speaking with them over the phone now and then. And even if you ask him who these girls are or how he knows them, he just brushes the conversation off or avoids talking about it all together.
- He blames you
He blames you for his mistakes, shortcomings, and failures at every chance he gets. “If only I hadn’t met you last night, I could have finished my work today!”
- He never apologizes
This is a bad boyfriend sign that can be noticed within a few weeks into the relationship. He has a big ego and just doesn’t apologize for anything, even if it’s his own fault. He just mumbles something or blames something else for his mistake.
- He’s overly jealous and clingy
He doesn’t trust you and acts cranky each time you meet a new guy, even if it was while having lunch with a group of friends. He absolutely hates it if you give any other guy in the room even a sliver of attention when both of you go out to meet friends.
- He blows hot and cold
He’s moody and unpredictable. Sometimes he talks about anything at all, and at other times, he snaps at you for asking too many questions. He gets angry each time you prod deeper about his work or his day after he answers your questions in monosyllables or nods.He blows hot and cold all the time, depending on his moods, and you have to tiptoe around him in fear because you just don’t know how to behave around him.
- He never answers questions without putting up a fight
It doesn’t matter what you ask it, he makes a big deal out of it. You never get a straight answer from him.
- He makes you feel anxious
He gives you headaches, stomachaches, bad anxiety etc. Even if you were in the best mood when you initially make contact with him, you are in a bad time by the time that you leave.
- Putting your dreams down
Whether they involve school, your career or a hobby you’re passionate about, he should never make you feel like you can’t or shouldn’t chase the things you love.
- Yelling at you for things that are not your fault
Like the fact that he has been looking for a whole two minutes for a parking space.
- Not standing up for you
When a stranger or even one of his friends crosses the line and disrespects you, he needs to be right there, letting them know it is not okay.
- He takes you for granted
He takes you and your gestures for granted. He just expects you to be sweet and helpful all the time, and he never reciprocates anything you do.