Anyone that has ever been in the dating world, which is pretty much all of us, knows that some relationships just inevitably fail. And despite the obvious warning signs, many of us never even see it coming.
But, if you can recognize it before it’s too late, there are ways to work towards a peaceful resolution. And while many of these may seem obvious, there are others that most wouldn’t even consider. Yet, for whatever reason, they are why our relationships fail.
1. Being Dependent on Your Partner to Make You Happy
In a relationship in which a person depends only on their partner to make them happy, the partner may become overwhelmed with the responsibility to make their lovers happy. There will be days when no matter what they do, they could not make their partner happy because they weren’t the source of their unhappiness, that will eventually wear down on the relationship.
2. A Lack of Trust
Trust is one of the most necessary aspects of a healthy relationship, yet so many people fail to trust their partners 100 percent. However, even when you feel suspicious, it is best to be sincere and speak with your partner. Learn to be open and sincere, voice your concerns before situations grow to be worse.
3. A Difference in Expectations
Everyone comes to their relationship with expectations for themselves, for their partner, and for both of them in the union. And while it may be easier at first to brush the topic off, eventually it will come up. When it does, if it doesn’t get resolved and both parties choose not to compromise, the relationship will inevitably fail.
4. Lack of Proper Communication
Communication is one of the top reasons people end up in couple’s therapy. Furthermore, it is one of the top reasons for break-ups and divorce. It is important that both partners are able to express their concerns and to speak to one another effectively.
5. Addictive Behavior
In the cycle of addiction, the substance of choice (gambling, alcohol, hard drugs, etc.) inevitably becomes the addicted person’s lover. Because of this, the addict cannot show their full love to another person without the drug coming first. If you or your partner have addictive behaviors you may need to seek out help in order to make your life and relationship last.
When you are in a relationship, there will be times of change that will be for the better. However, in some cases, changes of environment, friends, and interests can cause two people to grow apart. Unfortunately, such changes also cause relationships to fail, because the bond between them has dissipated.
7. Nitpicking at One Another
While more obvious abuse results in relationship failures, the more subtle nitpicking of each other’s flaws eventually results in the same. When you are constantly picking at the person you love, they can begin to feel devalued by their partner. For most, this is a deal breaker.
8. Time: Too Much, or Too Little
There is a fine line drawn in the sand for every relationship for the perfect balance of time. You see, in order for two people to grow together, they need to bond and to spend time with one another. But, when they spend too much time together, they can begin to feel suffocated. Conversely, if you don’t spend enough time together, your bond can dwindle, which ultimately results in a failed relationship.
9. Lack of Effort
When either or both partners put in little effort to make the relationship work, it can pose a number of problems. In order for a relationship to last, it requires constant work from both parties. If one partner doesn’t give as much effort as the other, the relationship will fall apart.