Do you cry when yelled at, and also cry when someone does something nice for you? It’s okay, you’re just an emotionally in touch person! This a good thing, and with this 4 step process, you can quickly come to terms with your own emotions.
Emotions aren’t as bad as people make them out to be. When you think of emotions you might typically think of someone who is always upset or crying a lot, but this is a mere stereotype. People who are emotionally in touch are surer of who they really are, how they feel, and are more connected in their relationships all around. When you are emotionally in touch it can have an extremely positive effect on your relationships.
It is a good thing to be emotionally in touch with yourself, but a lot of the time it can be confusing and hard to deal with. Why do I feel everything so intensely, you might ask yourself? Emotions are the communication between body and soul and it is important to know how to respond to them.
Here is a simple 4 step process that will allow your emotions to flow freely. You won’t even notice how well you are dealing with your feelings, you’ll just feel better.
- Allow yourself to thoroughly experience the raw emotion itself. Begin by feeling it physically, truly embody that emotion and allow it to be expressed through you. What sound does it want to make? What movement, posture or gesture do you feel best describes it? Don’t censor it and don’t add to your Shadow Self, instead, allow it to arise and come out in its most raw form.
- What is the emotion trying to tell you? After you’ve embodied and expressed it, you can now explore, without any self-judgement, what exactly that emotion is trying to tell you about yourself; your values, beliefs, needs, desires, expectations, attitudes, etc.
- How can you behave according to this emotion’s message? Once you’ve expressed and explored the emotion, you can begin acting based on what you’ve learned from this emotion. Is there anything you can do to bring balance to the world again (e.g. forgiving a person that let you down or learning to be more assertive), or is there a way you can share your emotion with others and celebrate the joy you feel?
- After the emotion has been expressed, explored and understood, you can then assimilate it. Assimilation of an emotion is a slow process that will only be realized in hindsight. Only once the emotional dust has settled can you truly learn the value the emotion brought into our life.